I can not count how many times I have heard, said, or thought "Don't you have any common sense?" However, one thing parenting has taught me is that 'no, there is no such thing as common sense!' I am so serious on that. The things I have had to tell my children not to do are insane. I have said things I never thought I would have to say to a person. Seriously no joke! The things you have to tell kids you could have never ever imagined in your wildest dreams!
For example: My infant son starts to cry while my daughter is playing so sweetly with him. The cry isn't a normal hunger cry. No this is a cry of pain! So I ask my daughter "What did you do to your brother?" Her response, "I accidentally bit him?" I ask "How do you accidentally bite your baby brother?" She explains, "Well I put his foot in my mouth and he kicked me, so I accidentally bit him!" Hum... I see! Now I am thinking why would you put a person in your mouth and why would you need to be told not to put a person in your mouth? So I calmly tell her that it is inappropriate to put people in our mouths!
Another example fast forward a few years my 7 year old daughter is in her brothers room yelling and about to do something to get him back. He is hiding in the kitchen. So I decide to intervene and stop this before something bad happens. I ask her what is going on? She is rightly mad. Her brother went into her room and apparently rubbed his butt all over many of her belongings. Thankfully he is 5 and did not think to take his pants off to do this! Why he did this I have no idea!!! So I explain to him it is not appropriate to rub our butts on other people or their belongings! To which he asks "What if I rub my butt on my own things in my room?" I feel like I am certainly failing somewhere as a parent! My 11 year old yells before I can respond "Why would you rub your butt on your stuff, gross!" So I explain that no its not OK to rub your butt on stuff! I really thought that this conversation was not necessary, but then again parenting 101 no common sense actually exists!
So I hope you do not need more examples to get my point, but if you do I have TONS more! Common sense is a myth and there is in fact nothing common about it!
For example: My infant son starts to cry while my daughter is playing so sweetly with him. The cry isn't a normal hunger cry. No this is a cry of pain! So I ask my daughter "What did you do to your brother?" Her response, "I accidentally bit him?" I ask "How do you accidentally bite your baby brother?" She explains, "Well I put his foot in my mouth and he kicked me, so I accidentally bit him!" Hum... I see! Now I am thinking why would you put a person in your mouth and why would you need to be told not to put a person in your mouth? So I calmly tell her that it is inappropriate to put people in our mouths!
Another example fast forward a few years my 7 year old daughter is in her brothers room yelling and about to do something to get him back. He is hiding in the kitchen. So I decide to intervene and stop this before something bad happens. I ask her what is going on? She is rightly mad. Her brother went into her room and apparently rubbed his butt all over many of her belongings. Thankfully he is 5 and did not think to take his pants off to do this! Why he did this I have no idea!!! So I explain to him it is not appropriate to rub our butts on other people or their belongings! To which he asks "What if I rub my butt on my own things in my room?" I feel like I am certainly failing somewhere as a parent! My 11 year old yells before I can respond "Why would you rub your butt on your stuff, gross!" So I explain that no its not OK to rub your butt on stuff! I really thought that this conversation was not necessary, but then again parenting 101 no common sense actually exists!
So I hope you do not need more examples to get my point, but if you do I have TONS more! Common sense is a myth and there is in fact nothing common about it!
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